Random Thoughts In My Mind

Originally Posted on July 30, 2011

It's been quite some time since I've written a new note for Facebook and I think it's about time for me to speak up about some things. This note may end up being all over the place but it wouldn't be me if it wasn't. You may not like me at the end of this note but that's ok. I'm prepared for it. So let's go ahead and get started. 

Ladies

We are some of the most beautiful creatures on this earth but yet we wish to show everything that God gave us by wearing scantily clad clothing. Yes, I know it's hot this summer but that doesn't mean that we should go out half naked. There's no reason why you should even dress that way. You attract unnecessary attention and then wonder why you have all these guys lusting after you. Uhh...did you look in the mirror, hun? We've gotta remember that we do not need to dress a certain way to attract the attention of a man. And if you do feel like that's the way to get a man, then you're sadly mistaken. Just because God gave you all of the curves you have does NOT mean that you should show them to the world. That is for your future husband only. Also ladies when you show all your goods in a profile picture and wonder why all of a sudden all of these guys are hitting you up in your inbox...don't wonder. Just take a long good look at your profile picture and you'll understand why. Sometimes you girls really make me think that you're very insecure and have low self-esteem because you put up these profile pictures to get a bunch of "likes" and comments. You're getting attention for all of the wrong reasons. Dress modestly and if a guy can't respect that then he's not worth your time. Dismiss him and wait for the man that God has for you. 

Another thing we've got to stop doing on facebook...we've got to stop bashing other females online. It's really getting out of hand. You say you're grown but you refuse to act like it. You act like you're still in junior high and high school with the mess that you start on facebook. I've never seen such childish acts before in my life! You ever think that maybe, just maybe, you should address the girl (I say girl because she obviously has not matured yet if she's starting mess on facebook) face to face or over the phone. Most of these arguments take place because of a guy...come on now, are we still fighting over guys to this day?? If he's with you and with her at the same time, then don't get mad at the girl because sometimes she doesn't know that you're with him too. Both of y'all need to dump the guy and move on. Get over it and get a life! Also if you're arguing over a baby daddy, I'ma need for you to sit down and shut up. You sitting here messaing the girl talking about, "He loved me first," and all this other mess. He obviously doesn't love either one of y'all if he hasn't married one of y'all yet. Please learn to wait until you're married to have sex and then have kids because it really puts a strain on the relationship that you're in. But I digress...He left you after you had his child and went and got another girl pregnant. That's his problem, not the new girl. You do NOT need to get into an argument with that girl because she's having a child by your baby daddy. Y'all have someone in common and you're gonna have to get used to it because neither one of you aregoing anywhere and neither are your children. Just make sure that he's taking care of both of y'all's kids please!

Ladies, what I'm trying to say is that we need to strive to be more like the women of God that He has called us to be. Respect yourself and others around you! Dress modestly and stop having guys lust over you! Learn when to shut up when something doesn't involve you! It's not your business and never will be your business so let that person deal with it and let it go!

Men

I must say that y'all are some of the funniest creatures I've ever laid my eyes on. Y'all obviously have a problem with clothing as well. Sagging is not AND never will be cute! I'm tired of seeing ALL of your underwear hanging out the back of your pants. My question is, How in the world do you walk with your pants hanging to your knees?? Isn't that a little uncomfortable? Doesn't that make it hard for you to walk? I love y'all very much but this has got to stop. Do you honestly think that somebody is going to hire you in the corporate world if you come to a job interview with your pants hanging low?? Umm...I hope not! Sagging is just my main concern when it comes to clothing. I still have more topics for you though...

Some of y'all have the absolute WORST pick-up lines and they're not even corny...they're just lame and ignorant. If you still use any of these lines, I'ma need for you to do better: "Psst, hey shawty. Come 'ere. Let me get your number." "Are you single? Let's get to know each other." "You know God said you're my wife." All of these need to be retired and that last one I mentioned is getting bad because I know that some of y'all did NOT even talk to God that day for Him to say that I'm your wife. Boy, I just met you. Let's be real now! Can y'all please develop a relationship with God before y'all start trying to "holla" at the first pretty girl y'all see? And ladies, can we please stop falling for it??

#DeathToSwag

Why, oh why, did anyone come up with the word, swag?? It's been misused and abused for the past couple of years now. Sad to say, even Christians are killing the word, swag! It has got to stop NOW!! So, is swag a required personality trait now or something before getting into a relationship with someone? Because that's what it looks like! Y'all have it so backwards now. What about an in-depth relationship with God before pursuing a relationship with someone? That should always be first! But no, y'all wanna focus on some doggone swag! Can you look and sound any more ignorant than right now? I would hope not but there's obviously no telling nowadays. Let's just get rid of swag and other forms of the word right now! Take yourself to jail because you killed it and then we'll have a funeral for it and bury it!  

My Christians Brothers & Sisters

My Christian brothers and sisters, what can I say to y'all? I love all of y'all but we have got to do better. We are some of the most hypocritical and clique-y people I've ever seen. We say we love God but we don't act like it. We go to church on Sundays and maybe even bible study on Wednesdays but other than that, there's nothing left. We act like that's all we need to do in order to get into Heaven. I'm sorry but there's more to it than that. 1. You cannot continue to keep sinning and expect to go to Heaven all because we have God's grace. #NotGonnaHappen Hebrews 10:26-27 NLT: 26 Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. 27 There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. 2. We always seem to forget about the Great Commission. We think that all we have to do is just obey God's word. Matthew 28:18-20 NLT:  18 Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. 19 Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations,[a] baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. 20 Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” I mean, don't you want to see more people saved? I know I do...it's time for us to get off our butts and do some work!

We were taught to love one another, right? Then how come we can't do it?? We have God's love inside of us but we don't show it to everybody. Mark 12:28-31 NLT:  28 One of the teachers of religious law was standing there listening to the debate. He realized that Jesus had answered well, so he asked, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” 29 Jesus replied, “The most important commandment is this: ‘Listen, O Israel! The Lordour God is the one and only Lord. 30 And you must love the Lordyour God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’ 31The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.” Luke 6:27-36 NLT: 27 “But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. 28 Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, offer the other cheek also. If someone demands your coat, offer your shirt also. 30 Give to anyone who asks; and when things are taken away from you, don’t try to get them back. 31 Do to others as you would like them to do to you. 32 “If you love only those who love you, why should you get credit for that? Even sinners love those who love them! 33 And if you do good only to those who do good to you, why should you get credit? Even sinners do that much! 34 And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, why should you get credit? Even sinners will lend to other sinners for a full return. 35 “Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. 36 You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate.

We can be some of the meanest and rudest people when it comes to addressing someone's sin. Luke 17:1-4 NLT: 1 One day Jesus said to his disciples, “There will always be temptations to sin, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting! 2 It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin. 3 So watch yourselves! “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. 4 Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.” We have to learn how to do this one in love though. Some of us hate the sinner AND the sin but we should hate the sin and not the sinner. Don't bash the person if they're doing wrong. Take them off to the side with a Bible in hand and show them in the Word that what they're doing is wrong. Don't just bash them based on your opinions. This is not about you and your feelings or opinions...it's about God and that's all it ever should be about. Leave self out of it!

So this is the end of my note...it could've been longer but I ran out of things to say. I think I got my point across though. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed typing this whole thing out. God bless!!

Role Models

Originally Posted on July 8, 2010


So what prompted me to type this note you ask…I was looking through the statuses on FB today & I saw this young lady’s status talking about she wants to be famous and stuff like that. I’m not putting her down or anything like that but it just got me to thinking about this generation and what they’re focusing on right now. Their minds are so warped and confused. All they’re looking for is to make a quick buck and they don’t care how they get it. Some sell drugs and some steal from others…why can’t you just make an honest living? Get an education and you won’t have to downgrade yourself and your standards by doing illegal things! It’s time for people to realize that there are other ways to get money legally!!! Legally being the key word!

But I’m not putting the whole blame on the kids because their parents could’ve taught and shown them the way to achieve things in life. Parents have to be a better example to their kids. If not then those kids are gonna grow up doing any and everything that they want to! Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Now back to the kids…these kids have some of the worst role models! Why would you wanna aspire to be like Nicki Minaj, Gucci Mane or Lil Wayne?? To all those wanna-be “Barbies” out there, I’ma need for y’all to sit down somewhere!! Why you wanna be considered plastic and why do you wanna look plastic? Because that’s exactly how Nicki Minaj looks! And for y’all looking up to Lil Wayne, I’ma need for y’all to do better because this negro is in jail for carrying a gun while on probation. How stupid could you be?? And y’all are still talking about “Free Weezy”?? “Weezy” needs to get SAVED for real!! That boy is so messed up. He almost died as a child by shooting his own self and he’s still not living right. Why can’t you find someone that’s living right and aspire to be like them? And when I say “living right”, I mean living the way that God wants you to live and not the way that you want to live. People think that you can live for God and still do what you wanna do but that’s another note at some other time! Seriously people, it’s time to put some positive influences in your children’s lives and to be a positive influence in a child’s life! There are so many young kids out here not caring about their education and having 2 and 3 kids in high school that it’s ridiculous and it’s all because they didn’t have anyone teaching them the difference between right and wrong. Yes, I do know that there are some kids who are taught the difference between right and wrong but still somehow make the wrong decisions in life. If you know anybody like that and this offended you, then I’m sorry but it’s true.

Yes, I see that I started talking about getting money the legal way and have ended up on role models but I’m guessing that it connects some kind of way and God obviously wanted me to talk about this so there it is!! Now I pray that this note has an impact on someone and they either decide to be a positive influence for someone or they can show it to others and they can become the positive influences that God wants us to be. If you think I’m being rude, mean or judgmental, then I suggest you take that up with God because honestly He’s the one that told me to type this up and I’m just doing as He asked me to! Thank you for taking the time out to read this and I would greatly appreciate it if you commented on it and tell me what you think!

Who Am I?

Originally Posted on September 8, 2009


Who Am I?
I am who God says I am.
I am what I want to be.
I am a young woman who lives for no one except God.
I am the salt of the earth.
I am comfortable in my own skin.
I am intelligent.
I am beautiful.
I am loving.
I am kind.
I am who God says I am.

Who am I not?
I am not who or what you say I am.
I am not a follower of man.
I am not stupid.
I am not ugly.
I am not ignorant.
I am not rude.
I am not mean.
I am not here to please you.
I am not who or what you say I am.

Who are you?
Are you a follower of Jesus Christ?
Are you comfortable with yourself?
Are you who God wants you to be?
Are you a pleaser of man?
Are you intelligent?
Are you kind?
Are you loving to all?
Are you who or what people say you are?
Just exactly, who are you?

Answer these questions and see if you don't learn a little something about yourself. *I bet you do.*

Watch the Company that You Keep

Originally Posted on February 18, 2009


I just recently learned that if you have a struggle and you’re trying to get out of that struggle, then it’s best that you don’t hang around people with the same struggle as you. Both of you aren’t strong enough to hold the other up, so why even try it? If one falls, then the other one is likely to fall also. For example, if you struggle with homosexuality, don’t sit there and talk about how good another guy looks with your friend who’s trying to get away from that. If you feel that you’re not strong enough to handle the situations or things that you know that you’re gonna go through when you’re with your friends, then don’t sit there and allow yourself to get sucked back into the mess that you were once in. Your company can seriously influence the things that you do consciously or unconsciously. Because there are sometimes that you do things that you don’t wanna do and don’t even realize it. If you really wanna get away from it, then you’ll seek God for your help. He won’t leave you alone. He’ll purposely put obstacles/tests in front of you to see how you’ll respond. If you fail a test or don’t get past an obstacle, don’t beat yourself up about it. There’s plenty more to come. Just keep it where it belongs, in the past, and don’t even bother thinking about it. That’s where so many of us go wrong. Once we fail a test, we like to beat ourselves up about it and harp on it. God doesn’t want us to do that. He wants us to learn from our mistakes. They’re not there for us to just sit and wallow in them. It happened, now GET OVER IT!!

People tend to wonder why it’s so hard for them to get out of a struggle. It’s because you make it hard for yourself with the things that you do and/or the people you hang with. Once you’ve been delivered, then you need to rid yourself of the things that are associated with your struggle. If you’ve truly been delivered from whatever struggle it is that you had then you shouldn’t entertain it anymore. You shouldn’t even tolerate it. There’s no point in going back to it. Like Damita Haddon says in her song, “I’m looking forward, not behind. I made a decision to give you my life…there’s no looking back.” Another thing that I’m tired of is when people have a struggle and you know it, don’t sit there and talk about them like a dog just because you don’t have that same struggle. You may not have the same struggle that they have, but you do have one. And because of you sitting there talking about that person, your true side that you’re “trying” to hide is gonna come out. With some of you, it’s just too obvious.You can try and go to the holiest of church folks for help, but they also may have struggles too, but they just don't let it be known. I just recently finished reading this book called “Strongholds” by Vanessa Davis Griggs. It’s an awesome book and I recommend it to anyone that has a struggle, even if you don’t have one, which is highly unlikely, I still suggest you read it.

If you feel like what I’m saying is wrong, then voice your opinion to me. Don’t talk about it behind my back. I wanna know what you’re feeling. If I stepped on your feet, then I’m sorry but this obviously had to be said. I’m not the type of person to write things and put them up on Facebook or Myspace for the world to see. I’m doing this for a reason obviously. There’s somebody that’s going through something right now and they don’t know what to do in their situation. I’m telling you that right now if you just give it to God and stop trying to handle it on your own, then the situation will get better. You can’t do this on your own and stop thinking that you can. Don’t go to your friends for advice first. Go to God and he’ll listen. He may not come at that moment, but He will be there when He knows you’ll need Him. Even if your faith isn’t that strong, there are some things that you can do to build it up. He’s still gonna listen to you no matter what. Just get in His presence and seek Him. Give God your Yes!! Some of you have such a strong calling on your life and you don’t even know it. Some of you are just so thirsty and so hungry for God, but you don’t know how to obtain. You sometimes see your friends giving God their all and in turn, He blesses them. And I know that you want it, all you gotta do is work for it!! Don’t try to do so much at one time. Build up to it and you’ll get what you desire!!

I have a few songs that you can listen to that’ll help you through this.
1. Kirk Franklin- Chains
2. Damita Haddon- No Looking Back
3. Kirk Franklin- My Life is in Your Hands
4. Marvin Sapp- Thirsty and Thirsty “Reprise”
5. Mary Mary- Yesterday
6. Mary Mary- I Just Can’t Give Up Now
7. Mississippi Mass Choir- He Can Fix What is Broke
8. Shekinah Glory- Before the Throne
9. Shekinah Glory- Yes and Yes “Reprise”
10. Smokie Norful- I Need You Now
11. Trin-I-Tee 5:7- God’s Grace
12. Donald Lawrence- Encourage Yourself
13. Donald Lawrence- You Are an Heir
14. Bishop T.D. Jakes- Manifest
15. Kirk Franklin- The Appeal

That’s all I have for now, but if there’s more I’ll add to the list. And if you have any suggestions, please make them known.

I love you all and if you ever need anything, any advice or anything like that, just let me know. I’m willing to talk. If I’m not able to help you out, then I can help point you out in the right direction. But trust me, it’s all gonna be just fine. Don’t let anyone get you down! That’s just the devil working through them. He doesn’t want you to do what God’s called you to do. He feels that he can bring you down in any kind of way through whomever he uses. He can even use your family members. But don’t even worry about that cuz you’re gonna get through it. There’s no doubt about that. Just let go and let God. I believe I’m done now. Just be encouraged!! That’s all I ask of you.

WTHeck are you wearing?!?

Originally Posted on November 24, 2008


This just came to me today for some odd reason…

I’ve been looking at these girls here and I’ve just been wondering why these outfits keep getting more and more ridiculous by the day. Now me, I’m the type of girl that is comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt. At first, I didn’t like dressing up cuz I didn’t really wanna waste my time because who was I supposed to be impressing?? Not YOU!!!

Anyways, this isn’t about me and what I wear, but what some of these girls that I see have been wearing. Ok, I understand that you wanna look cute when you go out to the clubs and parties, but does that mean you have to go out half naked and freeze to death? No, it really doesn’t. I mean, come on now, it’s the winter time. WHY?!?! Even in the summer time, it’s ok to dress in shorts and stuff, but sometimes the shorts and skirts that you wear are really inappropriate and some of the girls that wear this shouldn’t be wearin it in the first place. I know that you skinny chicks wanna show off your cute little figure, but sometimes you just go TOO far. You can look just as cute in some nice jeans, cute top, and some heels than some short shorts, half a top, and some heels.

And for you girls that are trying to impress these guys that you think are so adorable. If you really believe that you have to dress like *Excuse my language* a ho to catch a guy’s eye, then you’re wrong. If he only talks to you when you have that “hoish” outfit on, then you shouldn’t even talk back to him. Don’t give him the time of day, no matter how cute he looks, or what sport he plays, or even how much money he has. When you dress like that, you’re pretty much just lowering yourself to the standards of the girls you see in videos these days. Do you really wanna look like that?? Oh and for you guys that actually like girls that dress like that, you make it hard for the other girls that do dress appropriately. You make us feel like we’re not good enough for you just because we aren’t a certain way or dress a certain way.

If you’re offended by this note, then obviously I’m talkin to you. Most people that read this are probably gonna agree with me. I’m not tryin to be mean or anything like that, but I’ve just gotten tired of seein this. Guys, I actually want your opinion on this. Do you want a girl that dresses like a “ho” when she goes out or do you want a girl that covers up, but dresses nice at the same time?? Do you want a girl that throws herself at you or constantly talks about you to her friends even though you aren’t in a relationship with her? If so then you must want a stalker or something. Lol…I had to laugh at that one. Please if y’all can give me some answers cuz I think you’ll help me and a lot of girls out…

Brand New

Originally Posted on October 12, 2008


Yep, I’ve been hearing these girls using this phrase, “I’m actin brand new”
When I first heard it, I thought that it was pretty lame
But now I see that it applies to me
I’m not just “actin brand new” though
I am brand new
I mean, God has made me who I am today and I thank him for that
Back then, the “old me” probably would’ve cussed you out if you crossed me or even if you looked at me the wrong way
Now, the “new me” will just look at you and roll my eyes or I might just go off on you
God is still working on me with that one though
But I am doing much better with that situation than I was back then
My temper is not as bad as it used to be
It takes a lot more for me to get really mad nowadays
I don’t drink or smoke
And I’m saving myself until marriage
I’m waiting on the husband that I know God has for me
To me, being/”actin” brand new means that you’ve made a complete 360 degree turn
You don’t do the things that you know are completely wrong to be doing
At one point, you did it because you were probably taught to react that way or do those things
But you gotta be able to decipher between what’s right and what’s wrong
And now I can truly say that I’ve learned to do that
Don’t get me wrong, I still make mistakes but everyone makes mistakes
I can honestly say that I have learned/am still learning from my mistakes
No one left on this earth is perfect
The only perfect person is up in Heaven watching over us at this very moment
With His help, I am BRAND NEW!!!



Remember that He will deliver you from whatever it is that you ask of Him. Just call on Him and He’ll come. Stop trying to put too much on yourself when you know that you can’t handle it all. He’s our heavy load bearer. Just give it to Him and everything will be just fine.